Logan, Macie, Alexis, Bryan, Angela, Sarah and Landon are my treasures. Being a father to these seven children (two were guardianships) has taught me so much about life and about myself. From homeschooling to tea parties with my girls, to doing guy things with my sons, seven good memories come to mind and remind me of why I want to and should be a father again. Each of my children are adults now, all with lives, and some with families of their own. As my children have matured, my role in their lives has naturally changed. I have become a counselor and friend to my children as they seek to navigate the challenges of life. And while I truly enjoy this new role, a part of me still misses the active parenting role I’ve played. I enjoy camping, fishing, boating, swimming and riding bikes, and I look forward to teaching a new son to explore and embrace these things too. Instilling within a child the self-reliance necessary to succeed in life is a joy. Imparting to my son lessons I have learned is the fulfillment of every man’s duty.
For as long as I can remember, my greatest hope has been to be a mother. However, having been single for most of my adult years, I made the decision to save intimacy for marriage, believing that the best environment to raise a child is in a loving two-parent home with a father and mother. So, once I met and married my husband, we agreed to start trying to have a family of our own right away. I did get pregnant 4 months into our marriage, but sadly miscarried around 7 weeks. Since then, we have been unable to conceive. We have looked into other options, including IVF, but were discouraged by the odds. But having a child through adoption is something I’ve planned on since my teen years. Although my immediate family did not adopt (my own parents had their hands full with six children), growing up as the preacher’s kid, I witnessed adoption through some of our church family friends. Though our church was a small congregation of about 30 families, at least 5 of those families were adoptive families. One of the families, the Koellikers, in addition to having 4 biological children, added more than 10 children to their family through adoption, their ages ranging from 0 to 17 years. Their family was a beautiful patchwork quilt of ethnicities, laughter and a lot of love. In all the families, I witnessed the struggles and the heartaches, but also the strength and affirmative power love