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Hello beautiful expectant mama! We are Chad and Heather. We believe that adoption is a unique opportunity to build a family and friendship based on love. We appreciate the opportunity to share a little bit of ourselves with you. We know that you have a very difficult decision ahead of you. We applaud your strength and bravery in navigating this journey. Thank you for considering us as potential parents for your child.
Chad is a fun loving and funny person. He makes everyone around him feel at ease through humor, a helping hand, or just a shoulder to lean on. He is always the first person to volunteer when someone needs his help. Chad wants to walk side by side with me through any struggle or hardship we face. He is selfless, thoughtful, and a hard worker at home and at work.
Heather is one of the most thoughtful people I have ever met, keeping not only myself and her close family members on her mind, but all of her friends, our neighbors, extended family, co-workers, etc. I admire the way she takes care of the people in her life and always makes sure they know they’re loved and needed. She’s also a fantastic baker, wonderfully crafty, and a happy person. She always manages to put a smile on my face when I’ve had a bad day.
We thank you for taking the time to learn a bit about us. First, we want to acknowledge your bravery and strength for facing the difficult decisions ahead. Your selfless love will not be forgotten. It will be a part of your child’s story forever. We will teach this child about the difficult decisions, selflessness, and love that a mother has for her child when considering adoption. We hope this letter gives you better insight into our journey and the vision we have for your child.
Infertility has been a part of our journey to adoption. After we bought our first home, we tried to grow our family naturally. When that didn’t work, we tried infertility treatments. After 1 unsuccessful round of IVF, we decided that adoption is the right fit to grow our family. From the beginning of our journey, we have always talked about adoption. It is something that we have kept in the back of our minds for almost a decade. Now that we are finally pursuing it, we feel content and happy with our decision.
We are both big believers that God has a plan for all, and we feel that adoption was His plan for us all along. Through open adoption, we can build a stronger relationship and create a foundation of love and understanding for this child. We look forward to facing the challenges and joys this process brings.
We want you to know that we will provide your child with every opportunity that life has to offer. We both work from home and are financially stable in order to provide for this child. We will unconditionally love and cherish your child, raise them with open hearts and open minds, and never let them lose sight of where they came from. We will teach, encourage, guide, share, challenge, cultivate creativity, spark imagination, and provide a warm and loving home for your child. We want to raise your child to be kind, selfless, confident, intelligent, empathetic, and independent. We will encourage them to be their best self and pursue their passions.
Adoption will always be something your child can be proud of. We will speak positively about you and encourage a relationship that both you and your child are comfortable with. We want the lines of communication to remain open for the child’s life. We will share stories often and send pictures and videos via letters, emails, and text. We hope to put a picture of you in our nursery so that, from an early age, we can cultivate an environment of love and understanding.
Our promise to you is that we will always be grateful for your bravery and sacrifice in choosing us to parent your child.
With love and admiration,
Chad and Heather
Our Parenting style can be described as open minded and incorporates the whole brain method. The whole brain method engages the “up stairs brain” which makes decisions and balances emptions and the “down stairs brain” which controls logic. By using this method we will foster vital growth and cultivate a safe and open minded environment for this child.
We want to be open and honest with a child from the start, when discussing adoption. We plan to start talking to him/her as early as age appropriate. We plan to start the conversation by using books and telling adoption stories. Later, we hope to extend the conversation to pretend play and discussions about the love, care, and difficulty that birth parents face. We feel it is important to start the conversation as soon as possible so that the child feels this very difficult decision was made out of love and care.
We would love to have a picture of the birth parents to put up in the nursery. When having conversations with the child we would love for them to be able to see their birth parents and be able to make a connection to them early on. We want to encourage the child’s curiosity about adoption and let them explore as much as they would like.
We want this child to have every opportunity that life has to offer. We promise to unconditionally love and cherish your child, raise them with open hearts and open minds, and never let them lose sight of where they came from. We promise to teach, encourage, guide, share, challenge, cultivate creativity, spark imagination, and provide a warm and loving home for your child. We promise to raise your child to be kind, selfless, confident, intelligent, empathetic, and independent.
Adoption will always be something your child can be proud of. We promise you that your child will know who you are and we will always speak positively about you. We will encourage a relationship that both you and your child are comfortable with.
We live at the end of a cul-de-sac in a large suburb of a major Midwestern city. We love our neighborhood because it is quiet, family friendly and is located within walking distance of the Elementary School, Junior High and High School.
Because our suburb is about 30 minutes away from a major city, there are so many activities for kids to enjoy. Such as museums, theme parks, playgrounds, lakes for fishing and camping, board game and arcade game cafes, performing arts centers, science centers, and so much more.
Our home has plenty of space for kids to play on the inside and outside. We live in a split-level home that we own. One of our favorite places to congregate is the kitchen, dining room, and living room. All 3 rooms are connected and we love to fantasize about watching children playing in the living room while we get dinner ready. The vaulted ceilings and lots of windows make the space a warm and cozy place to spend time together. We also spend lots of time in the movie theater room in our finished basement. We love to curl up and watch movies or play games on the projector screen. We often have Mario Cart tournaments with our family and friends. We also love to host movie watching parties and we look forward to sharing the movies we love with a child.
We are very close with our neighbors. Our neighborhood has a playground and pool that all the kids in the neighborhood love to enjoy. Every year our neighborhood has hay rides in the fall and Christmas Light strolls with cookies and hot chocolate in the winter. We look forward to snuggling up with a child and marveling at the beautiful Christmas decorations.
The baby’s nursery is inspired by the movie Up. Heather and Chad’s Mother hand painted the walls. All the furniture is white except for the glider which is grey. Heather spent a lot of time on the details of this room. She wants it to be the perfect place for this baby. As you can see we are ready for this baby and we can’t wait to meet this child!
We have 3 cats, Killer (14), Snow (13) and Binx (3). Whenever we tell someone we have a cat named Killer, we always explain how he got his name. When we were looking at cats, we saw a sweet Siamese one. Killer wanted nothing to do with toys; all he wanted was to be petted and loved on. He was rubbing on Chad so much that he actually fell out of Chad’s lap. Heather said, “whoa, hold up there killer.” and the name just stuck. He is the sweetest cat we have ever met and loves to be around cats and people.
Snow is also a Siamese cat. She is a runt and much smaller than our other cats. Even though she is small, she has a big personality. She uses her big blue crossed eyes to melt our hearts. She loves to play and run. She is leash trained and loves to go on walks outside. We look forward to watching a child take her for walks on the trails around our neighborhood.
Binx is all black and named after Thackery Binx from Hocus Pocus. He is very food motivated which made him easy to train. He can fetch, do jumping tricks, and meows a lot. We hope to teach this child persistence in helping us continue Binx’s training and we are excited to see the two of them play together.
We are both very close with our families. Our moms live less than 5 miles from our house. Unfortunately, we have both lost our fathers and it has brought us even closer with both of our moms.
Chad’s mom comes over every Wednesday to watch shows and eat dinner with us. We love to share our passions with her, whether it’s a new Netflix show we discovered or a new craft we just finished. When we go on vacations, she takes care of our cats for us and even calls them her grandcats. She looks forward to spoiling a grandchild rotten and teaching them about her passions as an artist.
Heather’s mom currently works out of state and spends all of her extra time coming back and forth to be with us. She loves to travel and goes with us on vacations at least once a year. However, the past couple of years we have gone on multiple vacations with her. Since becoming Disney Vacation Club members, she will often join us on our Disney vacations and cruises. She looks forward to showing this child the wonders of the world and sharing new cultures with the child.
We met our junior year of high school. We had friends in common and knew of each other but Heather first started paying attention to Chad when she found him salsa dancing in the hallway with one of her friends. Heather realized that Chad would do just about anything to make someone laugh and she loves that about him. Afterwards, we both started spending more time together. When prom came around in April of 2006, we decided to go together.
It was an amazing night! We both danced and hung out with our friends. Our high school had a court yard in the center and we decided to go dance out there because it was really crowded on the dance floor. After about 5 minutes, it started raining. Our friends went inside but we decided we didn’t care and danced in the rain until we were both soaking wet.
Later that evening, Heather was driving home and decided to ask Chad out on a date. When he said yes, Heather almost drove off the road, she was so excited. We dated all through the rest of high school and college. Then got married in 2012.